By now, most of us probably have a basic understanding of what turns us on, myself included. (I do write about sex for a living, after all). Just recently, though, I learned that I’ve only begun to scratch the surface. It took one term to make me forget everything I thought I knew about myself and sex: Erotic Blueprint.
The Erotic Blueprint Theory is something award-winning somatic sexologist Miss Jaiya came up with two decades ago. Essentially, it’s your sexual love language, and just might be the key to having mind-blowing sex and exorcism-level orgasms. (Which, TBH, is incredibly enticing to me.)
So, in my quest to have more out-of-this-world sex and orgasms that would make me want to do a backbend and crawl down the stairs, I set out to learn more. And today, I’m sharing my findings with you.
What is an Erotic Blueprint, exactly?
The Erotic Blueprint is basically a road map to what turns you on. It can help you understand who you are erotically. Of course, this provides insight into how you’re wired before and during arousal as well. Additionally, it also breaks down challenges that you might face sexually.
How can knowing your Erotic Blueprint improve your sex life?
The entire goal of the Erotic Blueprint is to help couples better understand themselves and each other, and knowing yours can help you better communicate your needs in the bedroom.
This is especially helpful for those in relationships. Oftentimes, more likely than not, two partners will not have the same Erotic Blueprint. However, if they’re both aware of their own as well as their S.O’s, they can come to an understanding and give each other what they both need for satisfying sex. It also gives both partners insight into how the other behaves and responds sexually.
If you’re not coupled, though, knowing your Erotic Blueprint is still equally game-changing. Not only can it help you learn more about yourself, but it can also be incredibly empowering. It’s not uncommon for people—especially women—to feel shame around sex and their sexual desires. Tapping into your sexual love language on your own can lead to massive breakthroughs in the bedroom and make you more comfortable asking for and getting what you need.
The Erotic Blueprint Types:
There are 5 types of Erotic Blueprints, and each have their own turn-on triggers and challenges.
1. Energetic
This blueprint loves anticipation; teasing, yearning, longing, and a light touch are major turn-ons for them. They’re actually known to be able to have orgasms without any touch whatsoever (yes, really!). That said, it’s unsurprising that these types will often turn to activities like yoga or meditation.
Energetic blueprints may find too much, too fast to be challenging. As a result, they may dissociate from pleasure because of this. Keeping stimulation light and communication open is key with this type.
2. Sensual
You know those kinds of people who enjoy being in beautiful environments, surrounded by delicious scents and good people, eating decadent food and drinking good wine? That’s essentially what this blueprint is.
Sensual blueprints love having all of their senses ignited as part of their play. They appreciate romantic gestures and need to feel close to their partner and relaxed in the bedroom. They may often enjoy massages, essential oils, or lingering touch during sex. Their biggest challenge is overthinking and not living in the moment.
3. Sexual
This blueprint is all about “what we think of as sex in our mainstream culture,” Jaiya tells PureWow. Think: porn, orgasms, nudity, penetration, naked bodies, genitals, etc. These types simply love sex, and are always primed for arousal. They also typically feel less sexual shame than the other blueprints.
The biggest challenge for a sexual blueprint is that they often focus too much on the goal (AKA climax) rather than the journey (AKA sex). They’re also likely to think that sex only involves penetration, which can be very limiting.
4. Kinky
Kinky blueprints love the taboo, creativity, exploration, and doing things outside the “norm.” Because of this, though, they sometimes feel shameful for their desires, and in turn suppress them. That said, out of all the types, they usually have the most play.
There are two different types of kinky blueprints: Psychological and sensation-based. Psychological types love power play and things like surrender and dominance. Sensation-based types love feeling intense sensations, like spanking.
5. Shapeshifter
Shapeshifter blueprints are known to be the most sophisticated blueprint of all. They love it all, and can bounce between the different blueprint types. In short: They have a little bit of everything in them. There’s a huge capacity for pleasure and desire for switching things up in this type.
In addition, they make wonderful lovers because they can shapeshift to fit their partner’s needs and desires. They also have a high Erotic Intelligence. For this blueprint, the biggest challenge is making sure they’re taking care of themselves as well as their lovers. It’s not uncommon for people to tell this type that they’re “too much.”
How to find your Erotic Blueprint:
I’ll start by saying this: I thought I had mine figured out based off of the descriptions I initially read. If I had to put money down on it, I would’ve bet it on my Erotic Blueprint being Sensual. So, I decided to take an Erotic Blueprint test to find how if my assumption was correct.
It was not.
Turns out, I’m a Shapeshifter. TBH, it made sense after taking the quiz, but I’m now looking at myself in a whole new light. Who knew? It’s pretty cool that I have more tools and insight into what turns me on and what I like; I feel like I’ve tapped into new sexual goddess energy.
To find your Erotic Blueprint type, you can take one of these quizzes here. You can choose between the basic one of $0 or the more in-depth one for just $17. I highly recommend taking at least the free one, because chances are, you won’t know it on your own (take it from me!). Besides, what do you have to lose? You have everything to gain from learning what your Erotic Blueprint is.
