I don’t have many regrets in life, but expanding my sexual wellness knowledge before becoming sexually active is the one thing I’d do differently if I could go back in time. After all, approximately 99.99 percent of what I know about sex now didn’t come from junior high health class. Rather, it came from years of suffering through subpar sex, and I was well into my 20’s when I finally figured out what it’s all about.
The truth is, most of us start having sex before we really know what we’re doing. And because sex and shame often go hand in hand, we’re usually too scared to ask for help or have open and honest convos with our friends, doctors, and family members about sexual health.
It’s 2025, and it’s time to change the narrative. Which is why Flawless World’s teamed up with Coconu to celebrate sexual wellness. Keep scrolling to learn 7 ways to upgrade your sexual wellness routine right now.
How To Upgrade Your Sexual Wellness Routine:
1. Lubricate daily
Let’s be real: Vaginal dryness sucks. Although experiencing vaginal dryness is completely normal, that doesn’t make it hurt any less. On top of using lube in the bedroom, it’s time for the vulva owners of the world to moisturize their flower pot daily. Applying lube to your vagine after the shower and as needed throughout the day is the easiest way to do this. This will keep things moisturized and prevent you from experiencing discomfort and irritation in your everyday life. Just be sure to look for safe, gentle, and all-natural formulas that won’t throw off the vagina’s pH level.
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Oil Based Lubricant
Formulated to be 100% natural, this silky and velvety multi-purpose formula is the answer to vaginal woes. Not only can it be used during foreplay and intercourse, but it also works as massage oil and vaginal moisturizer, so you won’t have to experience discomfort ever again.
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Water-Based Lubricant Singles
If you’re a woman who’s constantly on the move, Coconu’s Water-Based Lubricant Singles are perfect for you. Because they’re single-use packets, you can conveniently plop them in your bag and apply while you’re out.
2. Move regularly
Haven’t you heard? Exercise is a natural aphrodisiac. It releases endorphins that help boost mood, gets your blood pumping, and naturally boosts libido. So, make a point to get moving regularly. This doesn’t have to be anything crazy either—it can simply be a dance party in your living room or a nature walk outside. You’ll feel good no matter how you move.
3. Pencil in self-pleasure on your calendar
We’re all busy AF, and I don’t know about you, but sex is the last thing on my mind when I crawl into bed after a long day. However, sexual wellness starts with you. Which is why it’s vital to pencil in self-pleasure on your calendar. As a sex writer, this is something I swear by. Not only does it help keep my libido in check, but it also helps me discover new things about myself (spoiler: there’s so much to learn).
The more comfortable you are with being sexual, the better your sex life will be. Schedule time at least once or twice a week to engage in solo play, regardless of your relationship status. This will help build up anticipation and excitement, and also make sex a priority. Likewise, don’t be afraid to set the mood with low lighting and candles, and find new toys and erotica to play with and listen to.
Additionally, if you are in a relationship, consider scheduling sex with your partner. This may sound like the most unsexy thing in the world, but experts swear by it. It’ll make intimacy with your partner a priority and help strengthen your connection.
4. Do more of what makes you feel good
While this undoubtedly applies to engaging in more sexual activity regularly, it also applies to every other area of your life. Sexual wellness starts from the inside out, and the more you take care of yourself, the sexier you’ll feel. So, do more of what makes you feel good by engaging in intentional acts of self-care. This could include anything from indulging in at-home spa treatments to cooking yourself a nice meal, getting 8 hours of sleep and everything in between.
5. Speak up for yourself in the bedroom
I came of age during a time period that told women sex wasn’t supposed to be enjoyable for them and that it was only pleasurable for men (yes; let that sink in for a minute). Needless to say, this confused and hindered my ability to fully understand how to communicate in the bedroom, and it took years of boring sex for me to finally realize that if I was going to have sex, I needed to be my own advocate.
Sex is supposed to be fun for all parties involved. But it starts with strong communication. So, dear reader, it’s time to learn how to ask for what you want in the bedroom (seriously—read that article). Start by learning what you like during solo play and communicate your needs to your partner ahead of time. Also, be sure to use words and body language as a guide during sex to direct your partner where you want. Remember: You deserve an orgasm as much as anyone.
6. Stress less
We all know that stress and tension can seriously inhibit libido, so finding ways to de-stress is key. The best way to do this is to set aside time for yourself daily. This might mean doing mindfulness practices, exercising, reading, listening to music, and so forth. Regardless of what it is, taking time for yourself—even if it’s just five minutes—will make it easier to relax and unwind because you’re consistently checking in with yourself.
Additionally, enlisting the help of CBD-infused products can also help. Case in point: Coconu’s Hemp Infused Body Oil. Whenever I’m feeling sore or stressed, I’ll apply this body oil and notice a major boost in my mood. This, in turn, helps me stay primed and ready for action. What’s more, Coconu’s Hemp Infused Body Oil also doubles as lube and can be used for(e) play however you like.
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Hemp Infused Body Oil
Formulated with coconut oil and hemp, apply this to your body or genitals as needed to promote relaxation, release tension, and boost overall well-being.
7. Talk about sex positively
Despite how far we’ve come, there’s still some serious societal stigmas around sex. But it’s time to change that narrative. And talking about sex positively is one of the best ways to do this. Make it a point to engage in healthy conversations about sex with the people in your life. This might include your friends, significant other, sexual partners, family members, and so forth. Getting used to and comfortable with discussing sex will frame it in a positive light. This will subsequently empower you to embrace your sexuality, and you’ll experience more pleasure as a result.
