Valentine’s Day is a polarizing holiday. Some people love it and others can’t stand it, but for those firmly in the middle, it can easily become a lackluster day. After all, there’s only so many times you can receive flowers and chocolate and have it be just as exciting as it was the first few times. Which is why spicing things up and making Valentine’s Day sexy AF can add some romance into your life.
If you’re flying solo on Valentine’s Day, though, you’re probably wondering: What’s the point? However, I am here to tell you that romancing yourself is just as important—if not more so—than being romanced by or romancing someone else. After all, the most important relationship you have is the one with yourself.
In truth, the day of love is the perfect time to reconnect with yourself or another, and staying in and having the sexiest Valentine’s Day ever is the perfect way to do just that.
So without further ado, allow me to introduce to you everything you need to have the sexiest Valentine’s Day ever. With these 6 steps, you can tap into love like never before, regardless of how you’re celebrating. Keep scrolling to learn how to have the sexiest Valentine’s Day ever.
How To Have the Sexiest Valentine’s Day Ever:
1. Prep ahead of time
Sure, spontaneity is hot and all, but have you ever tried planning a date or steamy sex sesh in advance? Prepping ahead of time is going to get both your mind and body ready for what’s to come—figuratively and literally. Likewise, this will also help naturally boost your libido. So, make a date with yourself or someone else, and plan how you want to spend Valentine’s Day. Then, start prepping accordingly.
When it comes to making your plans, remember that your Valentine’s Day means your rules. However, just be mindful of putting too much pressure on yourself. Trying to control every little thing and make sure everything goes perfectly to plan will hinder your ability to get aroused and orgasm. Remember: This is supposed to be fun!
Oil-Based “Make a Date” Gift Set
Use the flirty notepad to make a date with yourself or your partner, moisturize your lips with a nourishing lip balm, and place Coconu’s Oil-Based Lubricant by your bedside and carry the travel sizes with you in case things pop off early.
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2. Create the setting
Once you have a plan in place, it’s time to create the romantic, lovey-dovey setting of your dreams. Regardless of how you’re romancing yourself or your loved one, don’t be afraid to break out all the stops—light some candles, throw some rose petals on the bed, dim the lights, and so on. Nothing’s too cheesy over over-the-top. Creating the right setting will help you relax and get into the mood so you can orgasm as you please.
3. Start foreplay early
There’s no getting around it: Foreplay is essential, and starting it early in the day is a great way to build up to the main event. This could include anything from drinking a sex tonic or taking an aphrodisiac bomb, to eating libido-boosting foods throughout the day or reading some erotica. Whatever you decide, just make sure your foreplay helps you open up for what’s to come (literally).
Aphrodisiac Bombs
Woo More Play knows that the key to great sex involves foreplay, which is why they teamed up with Blender Bombs to create this sensual superfood so you can build up anticipation from the moment you wake up.
Spicy Rose Cacao
Rasa’s Sex Tonic is a blend of ginger and cayenne, hawthorn and rose petals, and maca—foods that have been proven to boost circulation and stimulate blood flow to the genitals. Sip this when you first wake up for some serious sexy vibes.
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4. Dress for success
If you want to have the kind of Valentine’s Day that’s one for the books, it’s important that you dress for success. This means wearing whatever you feel sexy, spicy, and comfortable in. Some people might want to whip out a pair of lingerie or throw on their favorite boxers or underwear; others might opt for some silky PJ’s or a favorite red dress. There really is no wrong way to dress, so long as you feel comfortable and confident in your own skin.
In addition, if you want to do your makeup or swipe on a seductive red lip, go ahead and do so! You can also spritz on some of your favorite perfume or cologne as well. Getting dressed up is going to make the occasion feel that much more special, and wearing something that makes you feel comfortable and confident is going to embolden you to branch out and fully tap into your desires.
5. Grab oils and lube
I don’t know who needs to hear this, but lube can seriously enhance your sex life, and it’s especially important for vulva-owners. Penetration via a partner or sex toy can cause a lot of friction—no matter how turned on you are—and unnecessarily irritate your lady parts. But using lube during solo or partner play will help keep your vaginal skin soft and enhance pleasure and arousal.
What’s more, lube can also double as massage oil, so you can use it during foreplay and while you’re gettin’ it on. So this Valentine’s Day, grab some oils and lubes and spread some slick, slippery goodness everywhere. These lubes are safe to use on sex toys, and are filled with natural, genital-loving ingredients for everyone:
Warming System
Pulse’s Warming System is a touchless lube and oil dispenser that also functions as chic decor. Designed to warm up lube for safe temperature play, this is the device none of us knew we needed. And with 6 mood lighting options, you can easily create a nice ambiance and perfectly match the vibe you’re going for.
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Awaken Arousal Oil with Organic Botanicals
Vulva-owners can apply this topical oil to their clitoris, inner labia, and inside the vagina to enhance pleasure, relax the muscles, and intensify orgasms. Before solo or partner play, massage accordingly and allow anywhere from 5-30 minutes for this oil to take full effect.
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Coconut Love Oil
Formulated without any irritating ingredients and made with only the best, this Coconut Love Oil will feel and taste amazing (trust me). If you live in a colder climate, keep it in your shower or bathroom medicine cabinet to prevent hardening.
Hemp-Infused Body Oil
Stressful day at work? Kids or significant other driving you crazy? Formulated with CBD, this body oil will help ease tension and open up the door for some sexual stimulation. Use this as the precursor to the main event and rub it all over yourself or have your partner give you a massage, then use it as lube during play (perfectly safe!).
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6. Try ethical sex-ploration
You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take, so open yourself up to a little ethical sex-ploration this Valentine’s Day. This essentially means being open and willing to explore and try new things, alone or with a partner. If you’re in a relationship, this might mean engaging in new foreplay, trying new positions or places (like the shower), acting out fantasies, or bringing toys into the bedroom. Just be sure to talk to your partner ahead of time; consent and safety is key for sex.
On the other hand, if you’re flying solo this V-Day, use this as a chance to explore your desires and get to the core of what really turns you on. Enjoy the sensations and allow yourself to indulge and take your time. After all, there’s no rush—you’re not going anywhere. Use your time alone to dive into your fantasies, read erotica, watch porn, or stimulate all your erogenous zones. You can also play around with edging. Giving yourself the chance to build up to climax will make the orgasm well worth the wait.
