How To Actually Have Hot and Mess-Free Period Sex

Many of us were taught that menstruation meant that everything was off-limits down there. Because between the cramps and backaches, bloating, fatigue, and blood, surely no one would want to venture into the danger zone during that time of the month—and to then add in the fact that period sex is often messy AF? Well, you can those sex dreams goodbye during your period.

This narrative’s been changing over the last few years, though, thanks to revolutionary brands like nixit who are disrupting the vaginal health and sexual wellness spaces with sustainable period solutions and products and open dialogues about menstruation as a whole. Part of that conversation? Period sex. And according to nixit’s founder Rachael Newton, mess-free period sex is actually possible.

Allow me to introduce to you the ultimate expert-backed guide on how to have steamy period sex without the mess. Keep scrolling to learn more.

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How To Have Hot and Mess-Free Period Sex:

1. Use the right menstrual cup

When it comes to mess-free period sex, using the right menstrual cup is key. While tampons and bell-shaped menstrual cups should be removed for penetration because they take up space in the vaginal canal, Newton explained that disc-shaped menstrual cups like nixit can safely stay in during play. Unlike other period products that sit in the lower end of the canal, nixit sits right at the base of the cervix, in the widest area of the vagina—AKA the vaginal fornix.

“When aroused, there is more blood flow to the vagina, elongating the canal as the uterus and cervix are pulled inwards,” Newton told me. She then went on to say that the vaginal walls are elastic and help create room for penetration. “This means space is created for nixit to fit while the canal is being penetrated—similar to how a contraceptive diaphragm fits.”

What’s more, nixit is comfortable AF. It doesn’t use suction to stay in place and instead stays safely tucked behind the pubic bone. “Around 91% of [nixit] users have reported that they cannot feel nixit when inserted, due to there being less nerve endings in the fornix,” Newton explained.

2. Experiment with different positions

Whether you’re getting it on by yourself or with someone else, Newton suggests trying out various moves to find what works best. Although the cup is petal-soft, thin, and flexible and shouldn’t bother either partner, practice makes perfect. Don’t be afraid to experiment with different positions. The same goes for solo sex. Simply put? In the words of Newton: “Explore what feels good without worrying about creating a mess.”

3. Communicate

“If the sex is partnered, our number one tip is communication!” Newton said. “Having sex with a menstrual cup inserted may be new for either partner, so talking about what feels good and what doesn’t is important.”

To make this step easier, sit down with your partner beforehand and discuss any trepidations you may have. Getting this out in the open ahead of time will help you both relax and go into the event more comfortably. Likewise, be sure to use your words and body language as a guide during play; this will let your partner know what you like and what feels good. Also, don’t be afraid to ask each other if something feels good.

4. Use lube

By now, you probably know that Flawless World swears lube is the secret to mind-blowing sex. So it shouldn’t come as a shock that it’s also the key to amazing period sex as well. “Lube makes life more comfortable,” Newton said simply. “We have a water-based lube that is ultra-moisturizing—a little goes a long way.” Plus, nixit’s lube is also compatible with their silicone menstrual cup, sex toys and devices, and most condoms.

What’s more, nixit’s water-based lube also glides on your most sensitive areas like a dream; the formula is luxe, non-sticky, and silky AF. Use it to make inserting your nixit cup a breeze and during solo or partnered play for intense moisturization. Likewise, it’s also 100% natural and organic, so you can freely use as you please.

5. Wait at least an hour to remove your cup

Although you should 100% pee after any kind of sexual activity to prevent UTIs, Newton suggests waiting at least an hour to remove your menstrual cup. “After sex or masturbation, we recommend waiting at least an hour before removing nixit, as it may be harder to reach while aroused,” she said. So, pee afterwards to flush out bacteria. Then, give your flower pot a chance to decompress before attempting to remove your cup.

6. Stop compromising on pleasure

“Historically, periods have been seen as dirty and embarrassing, and that menstruating people should be too ashamed to participate in activities—including sex and masturbation,” Newton said. But it’s time to put a stop to that narrative. Which is exactly why nixit, in the words of Newton, is “helping people unlearn these limiting beliefs by starting positive and educational conversations—whether it’s about period products, PMS, menopause, discharge, you name it. Part of that conversation is about period sex!”

To combat this narrative, nixit is encouraging people to experience pleasure during their period if they want to. “Many people experience a higher libido while menstruating, and the nixit menstrual cup provides the perfect solution for those uninterested in creating a mess,” Newton explained.

Give yourself permission to indulge during your period. The truth is, both sex and menstruation are a natural part of life. They’re nothing to be ashamed of, and shouldn’t dictate whether you experience pleasure. Thanks to brands like nixit, period sex is becoming less and less taboo. So, let’s continue breaking this societal stigma by normalizing period sex and not settling for less than we deserve in the bedroom.

nixit Products for Mess-Free Period Sex:

Ready to have the best periods of your life? nixit has everything you need for pain-free insertion, steamy and mess-free period sex, aftercare, and beyond.

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