It’s cuffing season, and as the weather turns and temperatures drop, there’s nothing like snuggling up against someone else. It only makes sense that we’d want to cuddle up with someone this time of year. In truth, this makes fall the perfect time of year to whip out and practice some intimate sex positions. After all—despite how fun it is—no one really wants to have their clothes ripped off when they’re cold.
Of course, when people think of intimacy during sex, they often think of the standard missionary position. And while none of us should be sleeping on missionary (it’s a classic for a reason), there are so many intimate positions that go way beyond it.
Allow me to introduce to you the 9 intimate sex positions you should try this fall. These moves are for two people and work whether you’re having penetrative sex via a penis, fingers or toys, and are perfect for those cold days and nights, lazy Sundays, building emotional intimacy, and when you just want to be close. Keep scrolling to learn 9 intimate sex positions to try this fall.
Intimate Sex Positions:
1. Lotus
Why it’s super intimate: The Lotus is essentially a sex hug, which means that you and your partner are completely skin-to-skin. The fact that you’re face-to-face makes it so you can easily kiss your partner and gaze deeply into their eyes. That said, getting into this position can be a bit tricky, so communication is key to mastering it.
How to do it: The penetrating partner will sit cross-legged while the receiving partner gently lowers themselves on top of them, wrapping their legs around their partner’s back. From there, both partners can hug and hold each other close, then move gently in rhythm with each other. Remember: This position is meant to be savored, so take the time to slow down and enjoy each other.
2. Gift Wrapped
Why it’s super intimate: This is another move that keeps you and your partner extremely close. You’re touching each other everywhere and having sex face-to-face. Plus, for those receiving with a vulva, this position allows for both G-spot and clitoral stimulation.
How to do it: Set up like you normally would for missionary, with the giver on top and the receiver on the bottom. From here, the bottom partner will wrap their legs and arms around their partner’s back, like they’re ensconcing them in a hug. Then, both partners can rock together and proceed accordingly. Bonus points if you whisper dirty things into each other’s ears.
3. Iron Chef
Why it’s super intimate: If you’re the kind of person who tends to favor frenzied sex over slow and passionate, this move is for you. The iron chef gives you the best of both worlds. The fact that you maintain eye contact the whole time makes it super intimate, while having sex outside of a “normal” place, like a bed, appeals to your rebellious side. If you’re feeling particularly bold, you can also try this move in the shower.
How to do it: Both partners will face each other, and the giving partner will stay standing while the receiving partner rests their butt on the edge of a counter, washing machine, or sink. Once there, the giver will grab their partner’s butt and the receiver will wrap their legs around their partner’s back and arms around their neck, pulling them in closer. From there, the giving partner can thrust deep. Don’t be afraid to throw in some dirty talk, kiss each other, or bite, lick or suck the earlobes and neck.
4. Modified Doggy Style
Why it’s super intimate: Surprise! Doggy style can be intimate. This modified, intimate version has the penetrating partner right on top of the bottom partner. What’s more, this position aligns the top partner’s face up against their partner’s ear. This opens up direct access to kisses or stimulation to those erogenous zones. Plus, it feels amazing for both partners. That said, this position tends to work best on a bed.
How to do it: Set up like you normally would for doggy style, with the receiver on all fours and the giver kneeling directly behind them. From there, lower yourselves down until you’re almost flat on the bed, then proceed like you would for normal doggy style. If the receiver has a vulva, you can also use a toy or fingers for clitoral stimulation.
5. Face-to-Face
Why it’s super intimate: Face-to-face is basically a seated hug. The physical closeness of this position will bring both partners closer together mentally. Plus, there’s nothing hotter than watching each other as you climax. The key is to savor this one and take things slow.
How to do it: The penetrating partner will sit in a chair or at the edge of a bed or couch with their feet firmly planted on the floor. Then, the receiving partner will lower themselves down into their lap, wrapping their arms around their partner. From here, the receiver can move up and down, rock back and forth, or, simply hover while their partner thrusts deep.
6. Squatting Cowgirl
Why it’s super intimate: Although the person on top has more control in this position, help from their partner is required to make it go as smoothly as possible. Since this move requires balance, the bottom partner will need to hold onto the top for support. Likewise, the top partner will need to trust their partner to help keep them balanced and supported. This trust is going to help build intimacy between the two of you. Plus, this move provides deep penetration, which can help increase the chance for internal orgasm for those with a vulva.
How to do it: Have the penetrating partner lay flat on a large surface, like a bed. Next, have the receiving partner climb on top and get into a squatting position, leaning forward ever-so-slightly and placing their hands on their partner’s chest. The bottom partner can then grab onto their partner’s legs, and the top partner can get to work, bouncing up and down, rocking back and forth, side to side… yeah, you get the picture.
7. Sideways 69
Why it’s super intimate: In all honesty, it doesn’t get much closer than having your partner’s genitals in your face. Plus, this is a great way for both partners to give and receive pleasure simultaneously.
How to do it: Both partners will lay on on their sides with their feet are at the other’s head. Then, both partners will take their top leg and place it behind their partner’s neck. From there, both can place their mouth on their partner’s genitals and go in.
8. Deep Impact
Why it’s super intimate: Although this isn’t the most intimate position in the world by default, it can be when taken slow. Slowing things down and going in deep is going to really make things hot, heavy, and intimate. Plus, it’s an amazing position for receivers with a vulva to orgasm; the deep penetration will give some major G-spot stimulation.
How to do it: Find a flat surface, like a bed or couch, and have the receiving partner lie flat on their back with their legs together and pointed up in the air towards the ceiling. The penetrating partner will then kneel in front of them and place their partner’s legs on either of their shoulders; this will slightly lift up the receiving partner’s butt, which will create a great angle for penetration. From here, the penetrating partner can grab onto their partner’s thighs and thrust deep.
9. Missionary
Why it’s super intimate: Missionary is a classic for a reason. Not only can it feel good for everyone involved, but it’s also super intimate. After all, the position has both partners entwined, and you can look into each other’s eyes the entire time.
How to do it: Have the receiving partner lay flat on their back, then have the penetrating partner climb on top of and penetrate them. From there, proceed accordingly. Just be sure to hold each other close and keep your eyes open so you don’t miss anything.
