I don’t know about you, but getting a massage always makes me feel like I’m floating on cloud nine. Whatever stress I’m holding onto always disappears during the experience. For this reason, it’s not hard to see why giving your partner a massage or receiving one from them yourself is a tried-and-true sexual initiation tactic. It not only relaxes your mind and body so it’s ready for sex but is also sensual AF. So when I came across the Flickering Touch Massage Candle by LELO, I wondered: Could a massage candle be the ultimate mood-setter?
The truth is, I’ve been on the hunt for a new sexual wellness accessory, And LELO coincidentally sent me the Flickering Touch Massage Candle right after my husband and I had agreed to infuse more connection and intimacy into our relationship, sexually and otherwise. Clearly, it was kismet.
Fast-forward, and I’ve now put the LELO Flickering Touch Massage Candle to the test multiple times—and I have some thoughts. Keep scrolling to learn all there is to know about the massage sex candle, and if it’s truly the ultimate mood-setter it claims to be.
LELO Flickering Touch Massage Candle: An Overview
Unlike regular candles or candles used for BDSM wax play, the Flickering Touch Massage Candle is specifically designed to melt into a warm oil that can safely be applied directly onto skin. Because of this, it’s formulated with soy wax, which naturally has a low melting point, as well as apricot kernel oil and shea butter. Shea butter contains vitamin E and helps the skin retain moisture. Meanwhile, apricot kernel oil deeply nourishes and improves skin health since it’s loaded with antioxidants like vitamins A and E.
LELO Flickering Touch Massage Candle
Not your average candle—and definitely not for the coffee table.
Key Ingredients
Together, these ingredients melt into a massage oil that’s silky, smooth, and long-lasting. Furthermore, the candle is 150g, has up to 36 hours of total burn time, and retails for $34.90 USD on LELO. Likewise, it’s also available in three aromas: Black Pepper & Pomegranate, Snow Pear & Cedarwood, and Vanilla & Crème De Cacao.
How to use the LELO Flickering Touch Massage Candle
Luckily, you don’t have to be a rocket scientist to use this candle correctly. The trick is to trim the wick down to about ¼ of an inch before each burn and to then let the candle burn long enough so the wax melts into a full liquid pool, which typically takes 25-30 minutes. The former keeps the burn clean and helps the wax melt more evenly and prevents it from getting too hot, while the latter spreads the temperature evenly throughout.
From here, blow out the flame and let it cool for up to 30 seconds. Then, dip a finger into the melted wax to check its temperature. If it feels comfortable, you can then pour the liquid into your hands or directly onto the area you want to massage.
Why the candle can help set the mood
It’s multi-sensory
Activating your senses can get your body primed for arousal. And the Flickering Touch Massage Candle directly stimulates the senses of smell and touch for both the giver and receiver. Better yet, the candle also makes the environment more erotic. After all, nothing screams “romance” quite like soft candlelight glow and intoxicating aromatics. All of this, together, naturally tantalizes your senses, which in turn makes it easier for pleasure to unfold.
It relaxes the body and mind
Additionally, using a massage candle also helps set the mood by relaxing your mind and body. On top of releasing physical tension, massages also release endorphins—the body’s “feel-good” hormone—and soothe the fight-or-flight response. Because of this, it’s easier to stay grounded and present and, consequently, get in the mood to get it on.
It creates a low-pressure sensual starting point
Lastly, while massages are sensual because they involve slow touching and warm oil, they’re not inherently sexual. When you’re giving your partner a massage, all that matters is that you’re making them feel relaxed. When you’re receiving a massage from your partner, relaxing is all that matters. This then shifts the focus from performance to presence, establishing connection between the two of you. This, subsequently, allows desire to build gradually and naturally. It makes sex feel organic rather than forced.
My experience with the LELO Flickering Touch Massage Candle
To put this candle to the test, I decided to turn my bedroom into a hotel room replete with food service (read: snacks on a cute cutting board my husband and I could easily eat in bed), a movie, and of course, candlelit ambiance. Although I’m a true vanilla girl through and through (it’s been my favorite scent for as long as I can remember), I went with the Black Pepper & Pomegranate aroma because I thought my husband would love it, and he did. The smell was light and pleasant, but more than that, he was amazed by how nice the oil felt. He kept raving about how soothing it felt on his skin while I was massaging his back.
When we switched roles, I quickly realized he wasn’t kidding. I was blown away by how luxurious, silky, and smooth the formula was; it was beyond nourishing on my dry, eczema-prone skin, and the warm oil heightened the experience and made it feel more intimate. And though we didn’t have sex that night, simply touching each other and using this candle to give each other massage’s was incredibly bonding and connecting.
What I really love most about this candle, though, is that it’s increased my sexual appetite. Taking the time to massage my husband and vice versa has made us want each other more and made room for more intimacy in our relationship. We’re closer—and hornier—than ever, and it’s all because we regularly use this massage candle on one another. After testing all three aromas, I can confidently say Vanilla & Crème De Cacao is my favorite. It’s decadent and airy, with a scent that’s subtly sweet, perfectly creamy, and silky smooth.
So… Is a Massage Candle the Ultimate Mood-Setter?
TL;DR: Yes. Lighting a massage candle instantly transforms any environment, making it more romantic and sensual. Better yet, it’s a super effective sexual wellness tool; using it can help you decompress and release stress and facilitates touch and connection between you and your partner, which allows desire to enter and unfold. Plus, all three aromas never fail. They always set the vibe. Needless to say, the LELO Flickering Touch Massage Candle now has a permanent place on my nightstand—and it deserves one on yours, too.
LELO Flickering Touch Massage Candle
Not your average candle—and definitely not for the coffee table.
Key Ingredients
