Relationship in a Rut? Spice Things Up With This

Routines. It’s easy to get lost in the mindless, day-to-day tasks in our lives. The same goes for relationships. When you’ve been together a long time, the excitement you felt in the beginning starts to fade. It’s natural. Going to sleep and waking up next to them doesn’t hold the same thrill it once did; eating dinner together becomes a necessity, and so on. Routines are easy to let lost in. When this happens, it’s important to spice things up and bring the spark back.

Admittedly, it’s easy to fall into a relationship rut. But life, despite the routines, doesn’t have to be boring—and neither do relationships.

Spicing up your relationship is easier than you think, and you don’t have to wait any longer. Bring back the spark and get out of that relationship rut with these tips below. Keep on reading to learn more, and bring back excitement into your life and relationship.

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Relationship in a Rut? Spice Things Up With This

Go to a hotel for a night

The best thing about hotels? You don’t have to worry about doing anything. Try going to a hotel for a night with your S.O; it doesn’t have to be far, it can be a local one right in your town or state! Getting away and out of the house together will allow you both to relax and reconnect.

Bend the rules and create sexy secrets together

Secrets give us something to share with another, and make our bond seem stronger because we know we’re the only people privy to certain information and knowledge that others are not. Try bending the rules a bit with your partner and create some sexy secrets together. It can be anything like disappearing from a party briefly to be affectionate with one another for a few minutes, or telling them what you’re wearing underneath your clothing as you’re walking into a restaurant for dinner. You can be as bold and daring as you want!

Be intimate more

When you’ve been with someone for a long time, it’s easy to put intimacy on the back burner, but the longer you go without it, the more normal not having it becomes. Stop saying you’re not in the mood and go for it—it won’t be a waste of time. Reawaken your sexual senses and stimulate your desires by getting it on more.

Make an effort to take care of yourself

It’s sexy when someone prioritizes their well-being. Taking care of your mind, body, and spirit will also make you feel sexier, and the sexier you feel, the more you’ll want to be intimate. It also shows that you’re not taking your partner or the relationship for granted, and you’re still putting in as much effort as you did at the beginning.

Be experimental

If you really want to add some spice into your life, try switching this up in the bedroom and experimenting with new things. Try role-playing, exploring the world of fetishes, dong it in different places, making a game of avoiding your usual go-to positions … Yeah, you get the picture. It’s fun to explore new things, and may even lead you and your S.O to discovering something new that you both like. Be sure to discuss this with your partner ahead of time so you both know what you’re comfortable with, and be willing to compromise.

Go all out for date night

Make date night special by taking the time to look nice and do something you normally wouldn’t do. If you’re staying home, try cooking something extravagant together or setting up a full-course meal with appetizers, entrées, and dessert. If you’re going out, opt for a new restaurant neither one of you has been to yet, or try out different lounges and bars. Use a rideshare app if you’re planning on drinking, that way both of you can let loose and you won’t be endangering yourselves or anyone else by drinking and driving.

Switch up your routine

We’re all guilty of falling victim to routines because they gives us a sense of comfort. Which is why switching things up can really spice up your life and relationship. Try having dinner at a different time or in a different spot in the house, try cooking something new, hire a housekeeper for a day so neither one of you has to worry about chores, etc.

Touch more

It’s amazing how much a simple touch of hand can awaken your body. Be affectionate with each other more, and take things slow to really heighten and awaken all your senses. Hold hands in public or while watching TV, kiss each other randomly throughout the day, and save those long and savory displays of affection for dessert.

Be romantic and spontaneous

Nothing breaks up monotony better than spontaneity. Surprise each other with little gifts, leave notes for each other, book a random dinner reservation, etc. Try your best to be open to surprises even if you’re someone who’s not a big fan of them; be mindful of being present and living in the here and now, and worrying about things like cleaning the dishes or doing laundry is only going to take you away from the present moment, and are things that can be dealt with later on.

Talk more and often

Good communication can lead to mental stimulation, which can help deepen emotional intimacy. Make an effort to talk to each other regularly about anything and everything. Try to laugh together regularly; there’s nothing better than being with someone you can laugh with. Don’t be afraid to flirt a little bit, either. Just because you’re in a relationship doesn’t mean that fun banter has to go away.

Try new things together

Spice things up by trying something new together. Whether it’s picking up a new hobby, cooking a new dish, or trying a new workout routine, having a shared activity will help bring some spark back into your lives.