It’s easy to get lost in the mundane, especially during this time of year. The holidays are over, you’re back in your normal workflow and routines, and you’re spending more time indoors in oversized clothes. Of course, there’s nothing wrong with embracing the niceties and comforts in your life, however, this can easily land you in a relationship rut. When this happens, setting up an intimate night at home is key.
Although physical intimacy isn’t everything in a healthy relationship, it does play a huge part. It’s a way for partners to connect with one another and reignite that spark.
So, if it’s been a minute since you and your partner have done some bumpin’ and grindin’, turn to this checklist to create the ultimate sexy night in. Keep on reading to learn the 6 essentials for an intimate night at home.
Essentials for an Intimate Night at Home:
1. Bathtime necessities
The first step for creating a spicy night in is doing some prep and indulging in some self-care in either the bath or shower. Getting ready in the bath or shower is going to help build up some anticipation of what’s to come and get you in the mood. Plus, it will have you thinking about sex, which in turn will help you feel more sexual.
Indulge in a nice shower or bath. You can try dry brushing, exfoliating with a body scrub or charcoal soap, or using a body oil post-shower to feel extra sexy. The choice is yours! Whatever you decide, make sure it’s something that makes you feel good and confident.
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2. Aphrodisiacs
Although aphrodisiacs may not be the magical sex potions that society’s given them credit for, there’s still something to be said about tantalizing your senses and indulging. For example: Chocolate covered strawberries are practically synonymous with Valentine’s Day, so when people eat them, they’re reminded of the romantic holiday; that reminder is likely to trigger something in the brain that will have an “aphrodisiac” effect. Basically: Those foods associated with romance are going to spark romantic thoughts and pleasurable memories in your mind and steer you in that direction.
If there’s a food you and your S.O ate on a really romantic night, try eating it again at the beginning of the evening to get in the mood and set the tone. This is just one part of using your senses to spark and increase desire. You can also enlist the help of the right cocktails or mocktails as well.
3. Romantic setting
Two things romantic settings almost always have? Candles and low lighting. So, set the scene for your sexy night in and create a warmly-lit room that’s not too bright. String up some fairy lights or whip out a dim lamp and light some candles to create a nice ambiance. Enlisting the help of candles will also help awaken your sense of smell, and in turn your sensuality—it’s easier to indulge in pleasure when all your senses are stimulated. Likewise, if there’s a particular scent you and your S.O. love, try to incorporate that into your setting.
In addition, you can also turn to music to help create the perfect romantic setting. This will also help awaken your sense of sound. Depending on what you and your S.O like, create a playlist that you can listen to for hours that will relax both of you and increase desire. Try keeping it at a low volume so it doesn’t overpower your conversation, thoughts, and physical sensations.
4. Something sexy to wear
Everyone feels good in different things. Some people feel their sexiest in spicy lingerie, while others feel their hottest in a small, silky robe; some may feel their best in cute PJ’s, a new pair of underwear, or a nice pair of boxers, and others may feel seductive in nothing at all. There’s no right or wrong when it comes to wearing something sexy. Pick out and put on whatever you feel your most desirable in, and what you think will make your partner lust after you.
5. A lucky charm
The more confident you feel, the better sex you’ll have (you’ll also be more daring in the bedroom). Don’t be afraid to use a “lucky charm”—AKA something that makes you feel good, elicits happy memories, or puts you in a good mood and brings out good energy—for your intimate night at home. Your lucky charm can be anything from spritzing on your favorite perfume or cologne, wearing your favorite piece of jewelry, swiping on flirty lipstick, and so on and so forth.
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6. Something new in the bedroom
And finally: What you’ve been working up to all night. Finish off your intimate night at home by trying something new in the bedroom. This can be anything from role playing, exploring fetishes, playing with sex toys, experimenting with bondage, etc. Use your imagination and get creative! The key is to try something new. Whatever you and your partner decide, discuss it ahead of time to make sure it’s something that you’re both comfortable with. If it’s not, try to come to a compromise so you can be adventurous during your intimate time together.
Some of your recent articles have been interesting. Can you go into more depth on the 6th section about fetishes and sex toys or is that out of your comfort zone!! Regardless keep up the interesting topic it seems like you are carving out a niche.
Author
Hi! Thank you so much!!! Yes, that is something that can be explored in a future post and/or posts for sure! Thank you again for the feedback, and thanks for reading!