Love Rush: Are You Moving Too Fast?

There’s nothing quite like the honeymoon phase. You know what I’m talking about—that time period in the beginning of a new relationship where everything is pure bliss. This phase can last anywhere from six months to two years, and it’s a time where new couples are drunk on love and each other, which is why making tons of plans and decisions about the future seems like a good idea. The problem with this? Eventually the honeymoon phase ends. So, all of this begs the question: How do you know if you’re moving too fast in a relationship?

People move too fast in relationships for all sorts of reasons. Sometimes it’s to cope and get over heartbreak, a matter of convenience, fear of running out of time, codependency, and more. Regardless of the reasoning, moving into things too quickly will cause problems down the line. More likely than not, it’ll also end up being a point of contention in your relationship.

That said, every couple’s different, but there are some telltale signs that clearly show you’re definitely in a love rush; warning signs that you need to slow down. Keep on reading to learn the 7 signs that you’re moving too fast in your relationship.

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Signs Your Relationship Is Moving Too Fast:

1. You’re fresh out of a relationship

As hard as it may be, everyone should be alone after a breakup. It’s a time for healing and falling in love with yourself again; a time to grow through the pain and come back better and stronger. Being on the rebound and jumping into a new relationship is one of the biggest telltale signs that you’re moving too fast. Chances are, you haven’t had the right amount of time to grieve your previous relationship, and that heartbreak is going to continue following you into every other relationship until you do.

2. You move in together right away

In the beginning of a new relationship, it’s not uncommon to want to spend as much time together as possible. After all, you feel like you’re floating on cloud nine. But that’s just it—but that’s just it, you’re floating, not standing and grounded.

The truth is, moving in together is a big step, and moving in with someone else before you really know them is never a good idea. Additionally, moving in together out of convenience or for financial reasons is also a big red flag. Sharing your life with someone else out of convenience is never a good idea.

3. You’re already making or have made long-term plans

There’s nothing wrong with knowing what you want, and there’s nothing wrong with letting someone else know, too. But how can you really know for sure whether or not you’ll make a great parenting team if you don’t know each other inside and out? How can you be so sure that you’ll stay together through thick and thin when you haven’t been tested as a couple yet?

This is also where resentment can start coming in, especially if one person feels like they’ve given up their whole life for someone else. Take your time and take things slow. In the beginning, it’s all about getting to know each other. You don’t want to start shaping your lives around each other before you’ve had the chance to fully learn and fall in love with one another.

4. You’re continually surprised by them

Surprises aren’t always a bad thing, but continually being surprised by someone who’s supposed to be your partner isn’t always a good thing either. Continuing to learn things about your partner means you don’t know them fully yet. This is why you definitely shouldn’t jump into anything or make long-term plans.

5. You’re ignoring your intuition

Despite the fact that the early stages of a relationship are usually viewed through rose-colored glasses, ignoring your intuition is a major red flag. Chances are things, have been moving too quickly, and you’re in denial about your feelings.

6. You’re not fully comfortable around them

There’s nothing worse than feeling like you have to hide who you are for someone else. You should never hide things from your S.O, and vice versa. If you feel as though you have to do this and don’t feel comfortable enough to be vulnerable and yourself around them, they’re probably not the one for you.

7. It’s still mainly physical

It would be weird to be with someone you weren’t physically attracted to, but as you dive deeper into a relationship, that physical intimacy is oftentimes replaced with an even deeper emotional intimacy. Emotional intimacy is the foundation of all long-term relationships. If your relationship is still mainly physical, take that as your cue to slow things down. More likely than not, you’re still in the honeymoon phase, or you may be in lust, not love.

Savor your relationship; take the time to get to know your partner and really fall in love with them. If it’s real and true, it won’t go anywhere. There’s nothing pumping the brakes a little bit and taking things slow. Down the line, you’ll both be grateful you did.